Relationships 

Well, it is always a topic... does not matter what age and century we are in... 

Lately I was thinking about the modern relationship . It changed too much and changing constantly. 

Parents generation stayed together ... really forever... rare divorce... 40, 50 years together. Crazy... somehow I feel in my generation there will be no such thing. 

But this is what I saw, I grew up, I experienced. This is what I was looking for.

OK... I am asking myself... is this the case now? Is this the norm? Is it exist at all? 

There are so many different option now how you live your life... sometimes I feel the real old fashioned love marriage is the rarest ...do everything together, help each other, plan things together... 

Is that good? Bad? It seems the normal now, just have some nice years and who knows how long... if you have a couple of nice years you should be happy. Chances are more that you donot stay together till the end of our lives than you do. 

Should we live together for decades and stay because of finances, just habit, kids, properties and be rude, depressed elderly together, or changing partners, looking for love all the time because the relationship getting usual, and "normal" .. but still respected... (not talking about the disrespects, lies... because I think that is absolutely toxic) . 

Is there a timeframe when a relationship good and it is going to turn usual...? 

Should we stick to a relationship even if it is not both sided? If one still do everything for the relationship, the other just accepting whatever the other providing. Do we have soul mate? What happens if you are in a relationship and you find your soulmate after? What happens if you never find your true love and sole mate? Do you have to settle for something but not for the good one? What happens if I donot settle for something.. I just wait for the perfect... (which is not exist .. we know) You have friends but you donot feel sparks ... and some sex partners but do not have good communication , conversation .... 

Probably you end up with some sex partners and some friends without sex  😀

There are so many question in my mind ... without answers... 

Other

Also observation...

People in isolation... right now I am thinking who live abroad for ex. and donot have family around there are much more personality disorder traits among them than those who has a wider social network. 

What are these and why it can be ?  

They so anxious, tense, they want you to listen their problems. Normally if you call someone and phone did not picked up, you leave a message, or maybe call one more time and wait for the call back. In Canada, there are so many times when if I donot have time to get the call, people keep calling until ... well forever... 6 - 8 - 10 calls in an hour, or so... Is not it show something? 

They donot have family members and just  a few friends.... if they are real friends... I donot think so. Friends, but I believe they are tired from having their issues. 

They getting into this cycle... need people around to listen them, but their people getting tired always listening them. Interestingly this is very general among lonely people. Well, maybe is the same everywhere, I donot know. I just never experienced this very tense behaviour before. It makes me uptight too.